Is Usher going too hard after Tameka Raymond?
OPINION - Usher has the legal standing to sell off his property, but wouldn't the civilized thing to do be to wait until the mother of your children was in better financial and emotional standing before booting her out the door?...
In these situations, everyone rushes to take sides. Tameka is a gold digger, thus getting her just due. Usher is an adulterer, who is using the courts and his celebrity status to cover his misdeeds. However, no one knows for sure all of the details of their relationship. People change. So do feelings, aspirations and motivation in love.
Breakdowns in relationships just don’t “happen.” Instead, problems tend to build and bud over a long period of time. And what we, as outsiders, often witness are the bruised feelings and egos, which happen because divorce has this nasty habit of turning generally decent people, in really complex moments of their lives, into colossal jerks — at least publicly anyway.
Like having your ex arrested for child abduction or trash talking them in the pages of the media or using the court system to have them evicted from the house, even when there is a chance they have no place to go.
Many times this is the reaction of a person, who is hurting and lacks the maturity to deal with their emotions rationally. Instead they would rather do divisive things to anger the person. Sometimes it is done to get a counter-reaction, sometimes in hopes of beating their exes into submission — but most times, they do it just to win.
Unfortunately, when this occurs, any hopes of an amiable co-existence are lost. And when that happens, there are no winners. Not for Usher, not for Tameka and certainly not for the children, which they share.
Someone will have to be the bigger person here, at least for the children’s sake and at best, for their own. I mean, it is certainly not a good look for Usher Raymond, who is primed for a comeback in the music industry. Who would want to hear an R&B artist sing songs about love and romance with the knowledge that he is actively campaigning to kick the still-grieving mother of his children out in the streets?
For all of these men, and many other famous and successful men like them who decide to leave their wives through no wrongdoing of the women, leaving a woman and taking her children should be shaming enough, if what they want is a power play. These acts are so devastating, at least they should be done graciously, especially if no ill will is intentionally behind the acts.
Usher, we know divorce is never easy, but it does not have to be annihilating.
Charing Ball is the author of the blog People, Places & Things.
