Evelyn Lozada
Evelyn Lozada attends the Maxim Party Powered by Motorola Xoom at Centennial Hall at Fair Park on February 5, 2011 in Dallas, Texas. (Photo by Gustavo Caballero/Getty Images for Maxim)

I admit, it was a bit of struggle to find sympathy for reality star Evelyn Lozada last year when she alleged that her husband of just over a month head-butted her when she confronted him about finding his receipts for condoms.

At the time, Lozada the angriest cast member on Basketball Wives, one who never seemed to think twice about throwing a drink (and cup), a fist, or a bottle all in the name of keeping it real. Lozada is also a woman who once jumped on a table in an effort to physically attack a woman she once called a friend. It was doubtful she had suddenly become a gentle lamb when it came to arguing with her husband.

It took a lot for me to get out of my feelings about Lozada and say what I felt was the right thing for the circumstances: “poor woman.”  Even a woman who hits other women shouldn’t be hit by her husband. Yes, even if she hit him, which for clarity, there was never an allegation of. But given Lozada’s past bad behavior, that doesn’t seem far-fetched.

Until last week, the pictures documenting Lozada’s injuries have remained under wraps. She didn’t make a public appearance until after she was healed, and even still, a million people tuned into OWN to watch the second part of the debut of Iyanla Fix My Life likely more so to get a glimpse of her injuries than to hear her side of the story. Even zoomed in screen shots on gossip blogs the following day didn’t reveal much.

Was the injury not so bad, many wondered. Or did Lozada have the best make-up artist ever?

Turns out, she had a good make up artist. The now-viral TMZ pictures, by way of the Davie Police in the Florida emergency room where Evelyn was transported following Chad’s attack on August 11, 2012, show Lozada with an ugly, three-inch gash in her forehead and additional bruising around her eye. Her husband pleaded “no contest” to the charges of abuse.

No one, not even Lozada, deserves that.

Lozada promptly filed for divorced from her husband, even if she allegedly reunited with him briefly after the assault, only to call it quits (again) for good. On Vanzant’s premiere, Lozada said she was a changed woman by the incident, and to her credit, she’s kept a low, untroubled profile for the last year.

But now Basketball Wives is preparing for its fifth season debut, which again features Lozada. Will she remain the changed woman that she said she would be — or was that all an act to get public sympathy, which wasn’t as forthcoming as she may have expected?

I have no idea, but I guess we’ll see.

Demetria L. Lucas is a life coach and the author of ‘A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life.’