Gabrielle Union opened up about her struggles with infertility in her book We’re Going to Need More Wine.

“I have had eight or nine miscarriages,” Union writes in the book, which was previewed in People. “For three years, my body has been a prisoner of trying to get pregnant — I’ve either been about to go into an IVF cycle, in the middle of an IVF cycle, or coming out of an IVF cycle.”

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She added that even though she has struggled for three years with this heartbreaking challenge, she and husband Dwayne Wade “remain bursting with love and ready to do anything to meet the child we’ve both dreamed of.”

Union spoke to People about how hard it was to struggle with infertility and IVF treatments while in the public eye, especially because the treatments caused bloating.

“For so many women, and not just women in the spotlight, people feel very entitled to know, ‘Do you want kids?’” she explained. “A lot of people, especially people that have fertility issues, just say ‘no’ because that’s a lot easier than being honest about whatever is actually going on. People mean so well, but they have no idea the harm or frustration it can cause.”

Union also said that she had not wanted kids until she became a stepmother after marrying Wade, and then it changed her whole perspective: “Then I became a stepmom, and there was no place I’d rather be than with them.”