A New York based activist is speaking up about why she felt compelled to post intimate details of her alleged sexual assault on social media — only minutes after the attack took place.
In November, Amber Amour was in Cape Town, South Africa, promoting her “Stop Rape. Educate” campaign when she claims she was raped by a man named Shakir after agreeing to take a shower with him.
Amour says she instantly knew she couldn’t keep what happened to her a secret and logged onto Instagram to post a photo of herself crying along with a detailed account of the assault.
“Here I was, telling survivors every single day that they should speak up… I knew I had to practice what I preached,” she explained to Marie Claire UK. “So the first thing I did was take a picture and write a post, describing what had happened.”
“It was almost an intuitive thing,” she added. “I was still in the bathroom — in the crime scene. I don’t even think I’d stood up. I just typed and typed.”
However the fact that Amour agreed to take a shower with her accused attacker instantly made her an unsympathetic victim to those questioning her discretion.
“Don’t take showers with men you aren’t intimate with. Period. Someone should of been told you that,” one poster chided.
“Wow sounds like you love attention,” another commented. Yet there are many who were appalled by the backlash and found the 27-year-old’s transparency brave.
“The fact that there are WOMEN commenting negatively on your posts makes me feel very afraid…This is the world we are living in,” said one advocate. “It hurts to see this. It is never ok to think you are entitled to have sex with a woman solely based on what is wearing or if she let you kiss her or not??? Never does that give you the right.. Im honestly baffled”
“No matter what a person does, it is not an invitation for rape,” Amour fired back in a subsequent photo caption. “It doesn’t matter if I kissed him. It doesn’t matter if he was drunk. It doesn’t matter if I said yes to a shower. I never said he could get violent with me. I never said he could make me bleed. I never said he could rape me. But still, that’s how the scene went down.”
Check out her full account below.