Pastor John Gray ‘publicly honors’ wife after cheating again: ‘My wife deserves better’

The Relentless church leader took to Instagram to show love to his wife Aventer Gray.

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Pastor John Gray is making headlines again for allegedly cheating on his wife.

Pastor Gray took to Instagram on Friday to “honor” his wife, Aventer Gray, and says despite the fact that he has emotionally cheated, he has never slept with another woman.

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Aventer Gray (L) and pastor John Gray attend the BET Presents Super Bowl Gospel Celebration at Lakewood Church on February 3, 2017 in Houston, Texas. (Photo by Marcus Ingram/Getty Images for BET)

“A few months ago I sat down from leading at Relentless. My life wasn’t in order. Church isn’t first. My wife is. This is my wife. She is from God. She is a life giver. She is a kingdom builder. Her name is Aventer,” Gray captioned.

The popular South Carolina pastor of the Relentless Church has been accused of cheating as far back as 2019. In an interview on The Real in March 2019, Pastor Gray said his affair was emotional, not physical. He claims that when he and his wife were having problems he confided in someone other than a counselor or a pastoral leader and admitted that it was wrong.

Despite Gray’s insistence that he did not physically cheat on his wife, however, there remains speculation that the affair was in fact more than emotional.

In the lengthy Instagram post Gray said that marriage is about consistent growth.

“I never knew what consistent discipline, planning, leadership, manhood, or personal holiness in action from a man’s standpoint looked like. Living a shadow life, God was unwilling to let me die assuming I was whole. I failed to uphold the holy standard of God in my marriage,” he said.

“And I’m sorry. Although you are the only woman I’ve ever slept with, emotional unfaithfulness is just as wrong. Sin is sin. People want to minimize one sin over another, when it all can get you sent to hell…My wife deserves better…So since I was the cause of public embarrassment, let me be JUST AS LOUD ABOUT PUBLIC HONOR.”

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A few months ago I sat down from leading at Relentless. My life wasn’t in order. Church isn’t first. My wife is. This is my wife. She is from God. She is a life giver. She is a kingdom builder. Her name is Aventer. I met her at church. She was worshipping God through dance. Over time, she allowed me in her life and let me dance with her. She took my ring and said yes and we began our forever journey. What my dance partner didn’t know was that I was very much unfinished. I never knew what consistent discipline, planning, leadership, manhood, or personal holiness in action from a man’s standpoint looked like. Living a shadow life, God was unwilling to let me die assuming I was whole. I failed to uphold the holy standard of God in my marriage. And I’m sorry. Although you are the only woman I’ve ever slept with, emotional unfaithfulness is just as wrong. Sin is sin. People want to minimize one sin over another, when it all can get you sent to hell. My marriage forced me to face both of me. Flesh versus spirit. It is every man’s battle. Loving God isn’t enough. Preaching Jesus isn’t enough. Face yourself. Get delivered. Or hurt the ones who actually love you the most. I started intense counseling (personal and for my marriage) in the summer. Scariest thing ever. Most necessary thing ever. I had no one to blame. My life is my responsibility. Admit your wrong. God deserves better. My wife deserves better. The pain I caused her is immeasurable. Seeing her name in blogs because of things I did broke my soul. So since I was the cause of public embarrassment, let me be JUST AS LOUD ABOUT PUBLIC HONOR. Aventer you are a miracle to me. I am sorry for the pain I have caused you. You name should have NEVER come up in any conversation in any negative way with anyone ever. I must do the work to earn your trust. I’ve lived a life I’m not proud of in so many areas, but before I die, I will be the man God intended and the husband that Your heart can rest with. I’ll be the father my kids can be proud of. I’ll be the pastor Relentless can stand behind. I’m in the process and I will stay in it. May the man I am becoming match the vision God showed you. I love you.

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Despite uplifting his wife in the Instagram post, a video of Gray speaking to his alleged mistress shows him bad mouthing his wife and complaining about her not cooking and that their son, therefore, had to eat pizza. It is unclear who the mistresses are or how long the relationships lasted.

The couple has been married for over 10 years and starred in the now-canceled OWN reality series, The Book of John Gray, as reported by theGrio.

Read More: Pastor John Gray apologizes for alleged emotional affair

And despite Gray’s seemingly sincere apology, folks on Twitter are having a field day with the news. Some are calling him the Offset of pastors and others wonder how he has time to be a pastor given his lengthy cheating allegations.

John Gray is just OffSet in a Pulpit,” one Twitter user wrote. “When does John Gray actually have time to be a pastor?! He’s always announcing an affair,” another said.

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