Amanda Seales says Russell Simmons asked her this very inappropriate question

The comedic actress breaks down why women 'wait so long' to call out harassment

Dec 4, 2017

Amanda Seales is not surprised by all of the accusations that have been leveled against Russell Simmons.

The Insecure actress took to social media to share her own story about Simmons, claiming that when he saw her at a meeting, he asked her, “Have we ever f****d?”

When she responded with a simple “no,” Simmons, according to Seales, replied, “Oh right, ’cause I would have remembered that, right?”

In captioning her video, Seales also spoke out about why it can often take so long for women to come forward with their stories.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Zm4Lhn9Kg8I

“PSA: For anyone who says, ‘Why’d they wait so long?’ You wait because as a woman raised in a patriarchal, ‘Bros before Hoes’, sexist, ‘but what were you wearing’ society you understand power dynamics and that even when there are witnesses to any level of sexual harassment/assault it will always be you who is questioned for incurring the offense. You wait because you know your vision is bigger than their indiscretion and refuse to let it derail you from your goals. You wait because you don’t even want to acknowledge the f***ery for longer than you have to when you know the odds are there will be no consequences, you’ll be dismissed, or worse defiled yet again and would rather get on with the positive things in your life,” she wrote.

She also acknowledged that the dynamics were different when race was thrown into the mix.

“You wait because, especially when it’s a Black man of prestige, you are conditioned to not speak defamatory truths for fear it will undermine their contributions to the community,” she wrote.

“Lastly, you wait, because you don’t even wanna believe it ya damn self. No matter how seemingly benign or intrusive, no one wants to endure this, particularly in professional settings. Yet, so many of us have so many of these stories and we come to operate like a clandestine anti-#creeplifes coalition of alerting others to, ‘watch out for so and so’. Let that be no more. It is not okay. It is not the culture. It is not your fault. Expose them. #igstorygems.”