Kitti Jones is done remaining silent about her experience dating R. Kelly.
Jones, a former radio DJ, tells Rolling Stone she was the victim of a truly horrifying combination of sexual and physical abuse at the hands of the R&B singer.
Jones tells the magazine she began dating Kelly in 2011 and eventually quit her job to move to his Chicago home.
Here’s what you need to know about Kelly’s alleged abuse:
He was shady from the start
Jones explained her first intimate encounter with Kelly came after he flew her out to his “getaway spot” in Denver, and he wasn’t shy about his peculiar proclivities.
“I’m thinking we’re going to hug or peck each other. But he plopped down on the couch and pulled out his penis and started pleasuring himself,” she said.
“Maybe he just has weird ways of getting off.”
The two had oral sex that weekend, with Kelly, according to Jones, saying things like, “I gotta teach you how to be with me” and “I gotta train you.”
“He was like a drill sergeant even when he was pleasuring me,” Jones says. “He was telling me how to bend my back or move my leg here. I’m like, ‘Why is he directing it like this?’ It was very uncomfortable.”
He controlled her every move
Shortly after their relationship began, Jones says Kelly made it clear he was in control.
Almost instantly upon moving to Chicago, Jones says, Kelly began governing nearly every detail of her life, starting with the requirement that she wear baggy sweatpants whenever she went out and text near-constant updates on her whereabouts. Jones says she was forced to text either the singer or one of his employees for even the slightest request.
Unlike on earlier weekend visits, Jones says she now had to “stand up and greet daddy” every time he walked in the room.
His team knew the deal
Jones says she was forbidden from speaking to or even looking at the male members of Kelly’s inner circle, and they clearly knew not to address her in any way, not even flinching when she stumbled on some stairs.
“She had to always have her head down or if they were in a conference room and she was sitting next to Rob, he would have her turn facing him and she had to keep her head down the whole time. If a male would say something funny, she couldn’t laugh,” recounts her longtime friend, LaToya Howard.
The abuse was physical
The first time his abuse turned physical was after she questioned him about the infamous video that sent him to court in 2006.
As they drove home, Jones says she repeatedly apologized while Kelly kicked her multiple times and delivered a series of open-handed slaps to her face. “I was putting my hand over my face and telling him I was sorry,” Jones says. “He would start kicking me, telling me I was a stupid bi**h [and] don’t ever get in his business.”
The next day, Jones says, the couple went shopping, and neither spoke about the incident.
He forced group getdowns
The singer brought a woman in naked and told her to crawl toward Jones and perform oral sex on her. “He told me, ‘I raised her. I’ve trained this bitch. This is my pet,'” she says.
“He videotapes everything that he does, and sometimes he’ll just make you watch what he’s done to other girls or girls that he had be together,” she adds. “He would masturbate to that and then have you give him oral sex while he’s watching what he did with somebody else on his iPad.”
In one particularly graphic example, Jones claims she witnessed Kelly urinating on two women while she and the women were in the middle of a sex act with the singer. “It was just a game for him,” she says. “He just went back and forth [on them] when he was peeing and told [another girlfriend] to clean it up afterwards. That was the worst that I’ve ever seen.”
Kelly categorically denies any wrongdoing:
Mr. Kelly is aware of the repeated and now evolving claims of [Ms. Jones],” Kelly’s representative wrote in a statement. “It is unfortunate that Ms. Jones, after public statements to the contrary, is now attempting to portray a relationship history with Mr. Kelly as anything other than consensual involvement between two adults. As stated previously, Mr. Kelly does not control the decision-making or force the actions of any other human being, including Ms. Jones, by her own admission. Any claim of wrongdoing of any kind or of mistreatment of any woman by him is false, ill-motived and defamatory.
Cortney Wills is an entertainment writer for theGrio. She is based in Los Angeles.