*Taraji P. Henson and her fiancé Kelvin Hayden have called it quits nearly two years after the former NFL star proposed.
The actress confirmed their break up during an appearance on The Breakfast Club, noting that they just couldn’t bounce back after hitting a rough patch, PEOPLE reports.
“I haven’t said it yet but it didn’t work out,” said Henson, 50, of her romance with Hayden, 37. “I tried, I said, ‘let’s do the therapy thing’ but if you’re both not on the same page with that, then you feel like you’re taking it on yourself and that’s not a fair position for anybody to play in a relationship.”
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Henson did not go into details about the reason behind the breakup, she simply stressed the importance of self-care.
“My happiness is not his responsibility and his is not mine. We have to first learn how to make ourselves happy, to make each other happy. So when one person is taking on the weight of the entire relationship, it’s never going to work,” she added. “You have to show up, yes you want to be understanding but you can’t lose yourself in that understanding. You have to still stand up for yourself and be there for yourself but it’s hard to do if the other person isn’t doing that either.”
Earlier this year, Henson put the wedding planning on the backburner amid the coronavirus crisis, theGRIO previously reported.
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The actress also revealed at the time that she was mourning the death of her uncle whom she suspected suffered from coronavirus complications.
“I’m pausing because there’s so much to take into consideration now. We’ve all been changed after this. There’s so much to consider — my grandmother who is 96, his grandmother who is 86, my mother he’s now 70, my aunts and uncles who are up there,” she told Access Hollywood.
“I just lost an uncle who we think may have had complications of corona. It’s a lot to think about, and I just think we should pause, stop, and just think this thing through. Humanity will be forever changed after this!”
Henson and Hayden’s nuptials were originally set for April, but had to be rescheduled due to personal and professional commitments.
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