After a vigorous workout, Kevin “Boss” Ross makes a sauna stop before the gym closes. That’s where he has a chance encounter with a guy desperately seeking out advice about his girlfriend. Boss later comes to understand that the person who needs to be schooled about following one’s intuition, is Boss himself.
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You are now listening to TheGrios black podcast network, black culture amplified. Hi, I’m Kevin Ross. And this is The Podcast. Hey, You’re Not Listening To Your Intuition. Why Is That?
So, I’m in the hot, dry, sauna minding my own business, ok. This Latino guy, mid to late twenties decides he’s going to strike up a conversation. Now, initially, I can’t fully hear what he’s saying because my ear buds are in
which I thought was universal for, “I don’t wanna be bothered”, right? Or is it me? Anyway, the gym is closing soon.
We’re the only two in the space. I removed my earbuds interrupting the slamming nineties hip hop mix that was playing, right? He proceeds to ask my opinion about what he should do regarding this situation.
Apparently, he invited his boo to come over and see him. She agreed to it. After she spent time with her sister. Now so far, sounds pretty reasonable to me. The girlfriend ended up not making it to his house.
Didn’t call to say what the deal was, never responded to texts and his blowing up her phone as the evening progressed. Nothing. Essentially, she ghosted him . So this is what he wanted to know, is the reason he didn’t hear from her was that she was with another guy?
My first thought, which I didn’t convey was why would he just automatically assume his lady was cheating? The explanation she gave was plausible. It was girls night out, they went and let their hair down, drank way more than they should. She loses track of time and ends up falling asleep at the sister’s place until the following morning.
He however, wasn’t buying it. Now, she’s calling apologizing, wanting to see him. But my man is like, no, it’s a rap. Despite kicking her to the curb, dude is questioning whether perhaps he’s being unreasonable.
Here’s what I said to him before exiting the sauna. “You know what you want to do in this situation, the problem is you haven’t made peace with that decision. Your intuition is telling you this person who you really dig has been unfaithful that intuition is God. Your higher power, speaking to you, go with it.” His response. “That makes sense. Thanks, bro. Appreciate it.” You know, I am constantly amazed at how easy it is for me to not follow the very advice I give to others.
Point blank, what is my intuition telling me right now? What is yours? Well, let’s first start with the definition, OK. Intuition is the power of knowing immediately without any sort of conscious reasoning.
Rapidly drawing on past experiences is what some call a hunch allowing each of us to evaluate trustworthiness, sincerity, purpose, whether it involves decision making or having a creative breakthrough. Intuition serves as a valuable compass.
Now, see, I have lived what some would consider an interesting life, much of it because for better or worse, I followed my gut, my intuition.
Lately, however, I’ve been, keeping it real, I’ve been second guessing myself. Presently, things aren’t so clear. Maybe it’s my age or is it fear that I’ll fail the next assignment I truly want to succeed at?
Perhaps it’s because my mother just died and I want to rush the mourning process so I can be on the other side of grief. Whatever it is, I feel like that intuitive radar inside me, ain’t functioning quite right. Can anyone else out there relate?
Uh duh. Of course you can because at the end of the day, none of us are special. I love that quote from the movie “Fight Club”. “Neither you nor I are some beautiful or unique snowflake. We are the same decaying organic matter as everything else.” Which is why despite being annoyed at first that the guy inside the sauna was interrupting my solitude.
I felt grateful afterwards because he got me out of my own head. I needed to hear myself say to him, you know what you want to do in terms of your current situation, make peace with that decision. Man, talk about a God shot. I mentioned this in my podcast last week, we cross paths intersect with people for reasons in the moment, we can’t even fathom why.
But if we pay attention and not ignore the little things that happen in our bittersweet lives, the answers are all right in front of us. That’s it. That’s my take. Now, listen to what your intuition is telling you. And let’s go.
I’m Kevin Ross and this is The Podcast powered by TheGrio. Follow me @IamBossRoss on Instagram and Twitter. Thanks for listening. See you next time.
